To defy gender
A specific time that comes to mind is the dinner/event we did for Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) 2019 - I ran into some old friends there and getting to share not only a meal, but trans joy with other trans folks on a day that is usually difficult for me and other trans folks helped me feel connected to community and like I wasn't alone. That's a TDOR I don't think I'll ever forget, for good reasons.
Connecting to community helped me better understand who I was, and created a sense of belonging I never had in my life before because I was excluded due to 'being different'. Finding community helped me to begin my journey to self-love and self-discovery.